How to correct someone in public
Picture this: You're in a meeting with a pretty big group. Your boss's boss is at the front of the room speaking about something related to your job. You're listening, taking notes, trying to catch the little pieces of information you need that pertain to you. In the...
What to do when you don’t know what to do
You've had this feeling right? Your to-do list feels like a million miles long, tasks keep piling up, you can't quite wrap your head around your life, and every time you get a spare moment, instead of being able to cross something off your list, you're paralyzed by...
How to actually achieve your goals
I used to be a person who set goals in January and then a few weeks later when I fell off my plan for whatever reason, I would absolutely tear myself to shreds over my failing. There were several things happening here that I want you to think about as you're...
How to be a good leader in a time of global crisis
"What do I do about the situation in Gaza and Israel? My staff want me to comment on it, but I don't really feel prepared or like it's my place to do so." -Jay It's pretty scary what's going on, right? And it's very complicated. It makes sense that your staff would be...
When your best is truly not good enough
Most of my work in organizational development has been with nonprofit organizations. Nonprofit organizations are all overseen by boards, which are full of volunteers. Sometimes board members are paid, but by and large it's an unpaid job that's seen as a service to an...
Why you need a union (It’s not what you think!)
The latest season of my podcast is all about volunteer organizations. I talk about how volunteer organizations can be great places for building relationships and creating non-traumatizing and even healing workplaces. Because they’re not paid places, we often don’t...
What it actually takes to have courage
Courage is not just something you can pull off a shelf in your cabinet. It’s something that comes deep from within. It requires emotional and spiritual fortitude that can be stifled fairly easily if not handled with care.
What grieving my husband taught me about cycle-breaking
When my husband died in October 2019, I learned what it felt like to Grieve. It was exhausting. I don't think I realized just how much of grief involved feeling tired like all the time. I was newly a single mom to a 3 year old, so that accounted for some of the...
Changing your life, GOAT addition
I once had someone ask me “If you were the best in the world at what you did, what would you do differently?” Before I go on, I’m just going to encourage you to do the same reflection. If you were the best in the world at what you did, what would you do differently?...
How structure can save a life
I was lucky enough to take an international trip recently with my sweetheart. We flew to Costa Rica for a friend's wedding and left my son, Ronan, at home with Grandma for a week of school and the kind of attention only Grandma can give. Since I knew we'd be over 3000...